Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
We've heard it said that those who manage
their emotions, manage their lives & get all the goodies. Sounds
great, but how do you do that? This article is about just that
& more.
Without a doubt, the ultimate key to high level functioning &
performance in all areas of life is emotional management. With
just a couple of new tools on your belt, that of Interactive
Awareness & Interactive Self-hypnosis, you can be on your way to
a smoother emotional life. Interactive Awareness is like having a new pair of perspective eyeglasses, allowing you to relax
deeply & to see very clearly in the moment. Interactive Self-
hypnosis is a powerful change tool that utilizes active imagery
in combination with deep relaxation right in the moment. This
pair forms a perfect conduit for managing emotions of all varieties.
In Interactive Self-Hypnosis you learn to disassociate, or
separate yourself from your emotional state. It helps to under-
stand that you are not your emotions. Emotions are simply a part
of you that needs management, even when the presenting emotion is positive!
Here you will be re-introduced to your emotions as if they were
children wearing tee shirts with their names embroidered on the
front for clear identification.
Emotions spend their day coloring experiences. Sometimes the
colors work well & other times not so well. On occasion the
crayon colors are too heavy & other times too light & if the
emotion holds the crayon too tight, or presses too hard the
crayon can break & you might experience this as a complete loss
of control of your emotional self.
As you begin to look around the world, as well as at your own
behaviors with your new perspective eyeglasses, you will spot
some pretty interesting emotional states & their crayons. Re-
member, the more you are willing to see, the better for you.
Knowledge is key. Working with emotional states is a skill just
like anything else. We have emotions that work in a positive
way for us, & others that don't. These are often called negative emotions, but it's important to keep in mind that even
negative ones also have their good points & can be useful in
certain situations. You'll come to understand & that these
emotions can help to open the subconscious mind through
releasing.
When looking at emotional states it's a good idea to know that
there are hundreds of them. Few people can name more than
twenty. Some emotions are experienced as having negative high-
power such as anger. You also have positive high-powered emotions as well, for example ecstasy could be considered in that
group. You also have negative lower-powered emotions, for
example annoyance & on the positive side you might consider
the emotion of being pleasant. Sometimes the momentary experience is about the choice of emotion & other times it's about
the intensity of the crayoning.
Interactive Awareness Practice helps us to see the details & what
is truly unfolding in the moment. How good are your self-
observation skills? While most of us can name or describe our
high-powered positive & negative emotions, most of us fall short
when it comes to the lower-powered ones. This is most un-
fortunate because these are the emotions that hang around more
frequently, coloring daily experiences, & are usually the ones
responsible for stress related diseases & interfering with goal
achievement. We often call them our personality traits, often
believing that they can't be changed because they are who we
are. This in itself conjures up some interesting images. For
example, what would happen if one's anger, resentment & failure
programs were diminished or removed? Would they evaporate?
This is a living example of how nonsense language finds it's
way into our subconscious mind programs.
It helps to see emotions like visitors who knock at your door.
You can choose who want to invite inside, as well as the decorum you expect or need in any moment. In the practice of
interactive self-hypnosis we can isolate moments & work with
them as separate entities. If you look closely enough with your
new perspective eyeglasses, you will notice that each moment
has a separate goal, something you want & that each moment
has emotions present that are holding specific crayons.
So, this is all about choice. What does your goal look like,
what emotions &/or crayons are best in this moment? You might
have to give up some automatic pilot programming if you want the
goal. This is maturity & the ability to see your outcomes very
clearly. This is self-development & self-growth.
How good are you at naming your emotions? Remember that you have
both negative & positive ones. Some are big & some are small.
Do keep in mind that they all have crayons! As you become
skilled with your new tools of Interactive Awareness& Inter-
active Self-Hypnosis you will be able to wake up to what works
for you, coloring you towards your goals. & if your crayons
aren't working for you, you can simply choose to change colors...
right in the moment.
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