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Orthodox Prayer - What, Why and How

by Bishop Paulos Mar Gregorios

3. How To Pray?

Prayer has to be learned. It is like swimming. When you are first thrown into the water, you may sink. You then may think that the law of gravity is final and cannot be changed. But there are other laws, like those of buoyancy and motion. The mere knowledge of these laws cannot teach you to swim. One jumps in and slowly, by repeated practice, acquires the skills of remaining afloat and of moving on the surface of or under the water. And some people are more skillful swimmers than others, because they have learned the rules and acquired the skills by constant practice.

Rule 1: Be Persistent

The first rule in prayer, as in swimming, is not to give up just because you do not succeed in the first three or four attempts.

Prayer is a spiritual skill to be acquired by constant practice.

Rule 2: Relax - Trust God

The second rule, again as in swimming, is to 'let go,' to let the water support you, to be unanxious and relaxed.

In prayer also we have to let ourselves go, relax, trust in God to support you and teach you how to pray.

Rule 3: Stay with Prayer

The third rule is to keep up the practice, even if you do not feel like it, or enjoy it.

In the life of prayer, our inherent love of sensual pleasures and our selfish love of laziness and comfort, will interfere to make us reluctant to keep up the practice, finding various excuses for not praying. There is no use saying 'I don't feel like praying' or 'I do not get anything from it.' It will take years before you get the habit of prayer and really begin to enjoy it. One must strengthen the will to have control over laziness of the body and desires of the flesh if one is to make progress in the art and skill of prayer. There is nothing like regular practice which can teach you to pray.

Rule 4: Develop the Discipline

A fourth rule, closely connected with the third, is: develop the discipline of prayer through fasting and self-control. Man does not become free and good like God until he learns to control his own inner drives and passions.

Restraint of hunger and thirst, of anger and jealously, of sexual passion, of the desire for glory and flattery, of the desire for bodily excitement and for sensual stimulation, and of all inner turbulences which make us do things against our own free will, is a necessary preparation for prayer. As good athletes competing for the Olympic Games go through very rigorous self-discipline in order to keep their body, muscles and nerves in good condition, so should the man of prayer keep his body, mind and spirit in good condition and under conscious control.

Rule 5: Involve your whole body in prayer

A fifth rule is to use our whole body and even material things in the service of prayer. Prayer is an act of the whole man, body, soul and spirit. The body can participate in prayer through posture, speech, and acts:

a. Posture

In our Eastern tradition, the posture for prayer is standing, facing east, with arms uplifted or folded in adoration and worship.

b. Focus

It is good to have a focal point outside - a cross with two candles on each side, icons or pictures of Christ, of the Blessed Virgin Mother and of the Saints, or even a more elaborate prayer-altar fixed in some part of the house, where the whole family assembles for prayer.

Crucifixes, i.e. crosses with the presentation of the crucified body of Christ on it, belong to the Western tradition and are not to be encouraged in our tradition.

In choosing pictures, it is best to use Eastern icons. Pictures with the sacred heart of Christ or of the Virgin Mother are to be avoided, because these belong to a particular period in Latin piety and are not helpful for a balanced spirituality.

c. Lips and Mouth

The body must pray, not merely the mind. Let your lips and mouth sing the praises of God, even if your mind does not always follow. The act of the lips and mouth is also your act of prayer, even without the concentration. Singing is better than saying your prayers, for in the very music certain human attitudes and aspirations are expressed.

d. Wandering of the mind

Do not get anxious about the wandering of your mind. When you become aware that your mind is wandering bring it back by consciously offering your wandering mind also to God. It is part of our confession about ourselves.

"This is what I am Lord, distracted and unable to concentrate. I offer myself to Thee as I am. Take my wandering and distracted mind, and heal it by Thy grace."

God will forgive you and transform you gradually.

e. Gestures

Use the gestures of prostration, bowing the head, making the sign of the cross and giving the kiss of peace. Words are not the only means of expression we have.

Folding the hands and bowing is a sign of adoration, and of waiting for a blessing.

Lifting up your hands with palms open, can mean petition, penitence, and intercession.

Prostration is like Sashtangapranama, the sign of complete surrender and submission, placing yourselves in the hands of God with full trust.

Making the sign of the cross is a way of reminding ourselves that we have been saved by the Cross of Christ, in fact crucified with Christ. Keep your three fingers together (thumb, index and middle fingers) to touch the forehead (symbolizing the Trinity, the source of all life and all good) and make a descending motion to the lower side of your chest to signify the descent of the Son of God from heaven to earth for our salvation, then take your fingers from your left arm to your right arm signifying both the horizontal arm of the cross, and the fact that we who were on the left as children of darkness, have now been brought to the right side of God as children of light.

Giving the kiss of peace is the symbol of mutual forgiveness and love, and it is a time for us to overcome all feelings of bitterness or anger against members of the family or others outside.

All these signs are part of a language which goes much deeper than words and transforms our sub-conscious minds which words can seldom reach.

Rule 6: Keep a balance between group prayer and personal prayer

A sixth rule is to keep the balance between group prayer and personal prayer.

Man is not primarily an individual. It is as a member of the Body of Christ that he has any standing before God. Therefore it is important for us to come into the presence of God regularly as a community - as a family, as a youth group, as a local congregation. And a community is composed of all kinds of people, not all of them exactly like you. They have different tastes, different ways of praying, different habits of prayer. I have to join them even sometimes when I think that their way of worship is not what it should be. Without participating in community worship and making the necessary adjustments for joining them, we cannot get rid of our selfishness and pride, and grow to be a real human being.

But community worship is not enough by itself. We need various levels of community with varying degrees of intensity of relationship. The youth group and the family are more intimate communities than the congregation. New forms can be used in these smaller groups which will be difficult or unfamiliar for the congregation as a whole. Personal prayers are made in the privacy of your own room at home or in the hostel.

In addition to these forms, however, some other forms of prayer should be mastered for personal use. The most effective and useful of these forms is called ejaculatory prayer. These are one-sentence prayers which one can repeat as many times as necessary, no matter where or when. You can say them in your mind when you are waiting for a bus; when you are anxious about something; when you are facing temptation; when you feel bored and lonely; while you are lying in bed, comfortable and too lazy to get up; while going to bed and when sleep does not come immediately; and so on.

The following are some of the possible forms of ejaculatory prayer:

1. Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, be merciful to me a sinner.
2. O God, Thou art my God. I love Thee. I am Thine forever.
3. Lord, you are my Master and my Lord, I give myself to Thee.
4. Lord, keep my in Thy ways, keep me from all evil.
5. Lord, have mercy, Lord have mercy, Lord, have mercy upon me.

You can make up your own forms of prayer, for here the Church lays down no rules for personal prayers. Of these forms above, the first was a favorite with the monks, and is known as the "Jesus Prayer." They used to recite it thousands of times in a day as a sort of mantra.

In Mount Athos, the monks trained themselves to say this prayer along with every breath. They would say, "Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God" with every inhaling breath, hold the breath in the lungs for a few seconds and then exhale, saying "be merciful to me a sinner." The idea was that the prayer should become as incessant an action as breathing, that the Lord Jesus Christ should become established in your heart as a deity is in a temple, and that you should constantly be in an attitude of prayer and repentance.

These forms of personal prayer as well as others should be developed. Each child of God has a right to speak to God any time and at all times, using his or her own words. There are no Church rules for personal prayer. It is an act of your personal freedom, and therefore is all the more pleasing to God when you use your own personal intimate language.

Personal prayer enriches group prayer; common prayer in the family, group or congregation enriches one's personal prayer; neither should be neglected. The two should balance each other. But the use of extemporary prayer is not encouraged in group worship.

Rule 7: Supplement prayer by reading scriptures and doing meditation

A seventh rule is that prayer should be nourished by reading of the scriptures and meditation. One can discipline one self to read a chapter of scripture every day.

Read aloud or silently. Meditate on the meaning of the passage. Devotional books may be helpful, but may also obscure the meaning of the scripture. Do not worry about whether the reading of scriptures gives you a feeling of devotion or not. Feelings are deceptive. What you need to find out is the answer to the following questions: "What was God saying to the people of that time through this passage? What does God say to me now?"

Systematic reading of the scriptures and memorizing some passages which touch you deeply will be found very helpful as life advances. You will be grateful to God in your middle age that you started reading and memorizing when your mind was still impressionable.

Conclusion

All these rules are to help you to be become a praying Christian. Only your own sustained and disciplined practice will make you perfect. But remember one thing, prayer can never be isolated from common worship of the Eucharist and from the continuous, active compassionate love for your fellow men.

Let us all pray: "Lord, Teach us to pray. Amen."

See Also:

Part 1: What is Prayer?

Part 2: Why Pray?

Part 3: How to Pray?

Source: "What is Prayer? Why Pray? How Pray? (written for Orthodox young people in India)" pages 76-83 "The Joy of Freedom" 1967 (republished 1986 by CLS, Madras, India)

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